This is about to be a topic that I really do pray changes the understanding of many of us as it relates to understanding what SINGLENESS is and how to value it.

Although this was notes that I got from a session last year online, I really want you guys to think about this topic. I added some mini activities that you should of course do in your spare time so that you’re not just reading, but I’m getting you to think, understand and apply.

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Speaker: Dr Sharon Johnson

• There is nothing to fear in singleness.
• Marriage is not the final destination.
• Be able to do singleness.
• How do you feel about your singleness? (Write this down)
• Isaiah 43:15-19
• Think about the things that God has done for you. He has brought us through and made a pathway from things that may have caused us to drown. 
• God is telling us to forget all the former things, because He is doing a new thing, and creating a new way, in a way you haven’t seen before. 
• We stay intimate in the past and miss what He is doing now and what He will do – and we treat our singleness like this.
• Even in the driest of places, God says He will do something, so be expectant. 
• What is it that you want to do with me now? (Ask God this)
• How can I utilize my singleness? (Ask yourself this)
• When you are thinking on past bitterness, you cannot walk where God wants you and that becomes wasted time.
• Singleness is not a depressing place.
• Don’t think that when you are single, you are missing out.
• You are not left behind.
• To be married doesn’t mean you are extra blessed.
• God doesn’t see you as lesser than, or abandoned.
• Putting the past in perspective helps you deal well with the here and now. 
• When you are single, you are actually married. You are intimate with God through Christ. 
• You live as if you do what you want and how to do it, you find that later on in life you have issues being with someone.
• The character issues of your life get dealt with when you put your relationship with Him on the forefront. 
• He fixes what character traits may make you a better mate. 
• God what next in me do you want to fix or work on? Where do I need to shift in me? How can your glory be more evident in me? How can your love be felt? (Write these down)
• Rhema (Research to find out what this means and how it applies to this topic)
• Not because it hasn’t happened yet means it’s not going to happen, but it means you should ask him what you should do in that season. (Ask Him)
• Some people are not single in their hearts. – We conceive unhealthy things in our spirits in a way that shouldn’t be and it turns out too intimate. 
• There is now less accountability for who we connect with. 
• Singleness is a “perfect” time for those who can damage you for life when you aren’t focusing on what you should do in that season. 
• Soul ties – Peter tells us to be clear minded and alert. 
• Don’t let that be you. Where the enemy plots and catches you.
• Judges 1 and Joshua 15:16-19 – Her father was Caleb. Aksah was a newly wed. Even though she was married, She still had other needs and she went back to her father. 
• We may be asking God for some streams and rivers, some more, because we feel dry. It may be a relationship, healing for preparing for marriage, a husband or for your finances. 
• He gave her more – upper and lower. He gave her in an abundance. 
• Overtime God will open out and give you more. He will give you territory. 
• Endure your singleness. 
• Ask Him again and again, He has always been there for us. 
• Don’t live waiting, live expectantly. You stop waiting when you are free either way and you see that what God is doing is what He will do.
• When you get to the place that you say, “Even if I don’t get all the desires of my heart, I’ll still serve you.” You become expectant of his goodness and whatever it looks like. 

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This blog would not be complete if I didn’t add important material for after reading this blog now would it?

Sane & Single: The A to Z on Being Single

Sharon R.M. Johnson

Homework

Here are a few questions that I want you to answer in your own time.

1. What is SINGLENESS?
2. Is it good?
3. How can we use that season in a good way to prepare for the future?
4. What does it have to do with our relationship with God?
5. Reread all the passages mentioned today and ask the Holy Spirit to give you more insight and revelation.

Before I close, I wanted to share a post i saw from a leader in a minister I am a part of and leave that thought with you!!!