LETTER TO THOSE WHO: Cannot Say “No”

When I was younger I didn’t even think this was a big problem or something that would have this kind of effect on my life.

I thought that I was doing the world a favor by being helpful in any way that I can and I didn’t even use the word burnout in any context outside of the kitchen, so I had no idea that that feeling I had was because I was not refilling and I was taking up too many things at once.

In some instances, because it was so difficult for me to tell everyone that I just couldn’t because I was behind on other things, I hibernated…

A while after I started this blog, a friend of mine was having a difficult time to tell a client that she was unable to meet their deadline or just to guarantee that the service would be completed at the moment.

That is something that I most definitely know is a problem. It’s already enough that some of us can’t seem to tell our friends that we are unable to meet up because we are tired or we can’t stay up because we have work early in the morning.

I also saw this video on Better Together TV that I wanted to share. Lise Harper spoke about her motive to do some things and when I reflected on my life, there were a few things that I thought about and said, “so all along I wasn’t helping anyone?”

That was mainly because I thought I was being heroic to still function in some capacities even with some things holding me back. I realised sometimes saying NO, would have been more beneficial to the person, that me ending up freely distributing false promises and not partnering with those I planned all these things with, big or small.

So, after all of this, we know that it is so not beneficial to anyone at all, not even yourself if you don’t balance your time well, end up leaving broken promises and people seeing us as undependable. It is important that we see that it is sometimes important to know that we can say no. Also, Christine Caine in the video also said, “sometimes it isn’t a distraction, but not the priority.” And that is what we need to talk about next…

~ 🇯🇲The creatOR creatED me a creatIVE – Queen Ruthie 🇯🇲 ~