WHAT I LEARNT FROM: Having Accountability And Consistency

For most of my teenage years, all I wanted was for me to wash the dishes, clean my room, make breakfast and do my hair with a little congratulations from those that mattered.

Of course, most times there are a lot of things we all do that go unnoticed but are we willing to still clean the bathroom every weekend even if no one is paying attention?

Something my mom and I were talking about is that sometimes people don’t realise that you have been doing something until the one time that you don’t. This is absolutely true.

How many times have you been told that your room is “always messy” or that you’re selfish for only making a meal for you versus maybe the whole family?

Eventually you stop having the desire to just clean the room and getting good grades just for others to say “thank you” right? Because regardless of when you do it, there is only acknowledgement of when it isn’t done.

Now, I hope no one thinks I’m targeting any specific person now. My parents and I are good. Lol.

But eventually I had to learn that I cannot just do it because someone might notice. I had to clean my room so that I’ll have a clean room. I have to clean my space so that when I’m studying I have a smooth thinking process.

I had to hold myself accountable and I had to be consistent on my own. Of course that comes with setting my own routines and sticking to it.

SIDENOTE// Something that I was taught from Vee Kativhu is that you have to work around your family members, especially if you live in a black household.

It lowkey is a death sentence for some if you say you’re too busy to go and mop the floors.

I had to work around my family’s routine. Although it changed a lot, I had to work around it so that I can accomplish the goals that I set for myself, regardless of if they noticed that I was getting straight A’s etc.

I had to set my early alarms to start my day before they got up and I had to pursue my passions even if no one on the planet acknowledged my existence.

I had to have congratulatory moments for myself when I completed an assignment on time or when I got a good grade. And of course, our friends and family members want what is best for us, but until you realise that no one knows your full potential than you and God, you stop waiting on others to catch up on what you’re able to do.

I stopped limiting myself to what my friends or even past friends thought that I could do. I no longer waiting on the congratulations messages and the gifts for reaching big milestones. If I did, there were a lot of things that I wouldn’t have done because I knew it wasn’t big of a deal to others as it as mine.

Stay tuned for Part 2.

~ 🇯🇲The creatOR creatED me a creatIVE – Queen Ruthie 🇯🇲 ~